Do you need some advices for marriage? Here's one: If you want a marriage that lasts you a lifetime, take a hard look at these 3 dangerous myths and banish them from your mind, so they don't sabotage the happiness you've always dreamed of...
Myth #1: Your expectations of married life stay the same.
The important reason in this, is the fact that many couples fail to continuously discuss what their personal ideas of married life will look like with each other.
As time goes by, your preferences in life will change. When you were younger, your idea of having a good time could be a night out in town. But as you age, you might find staying at home watching a movie a more attractive idea.
Why not set aside time for a vacation each year so you can discuss how your expectations of married life have changed? This can help you avoid unnecessary misunderstandings and bring you two closer together.
Myth #2: Everything good in our relationship will automatically get better.
The phrase "Happily Ever After" is one of the most incomplete sentences used in fairy tales. They forgot to add "...because they worked hard on their marriage to make it better every single day."
It is an illusion to think that the romance in the beginning of your relationship will naturally last forever. It takes concentrated effort to keep the passion in your marriage alive.
Things in your marriage can only get better if you make the effort to be more patient, learn how to communicate your feelings better, become a master negotiator. Otherwise, you're just leaving it to chance. A chance for it to get worse. Your relationship was great in the beginning because you both put effort and time into making it so. Remember, marriage is a journey, not a destination.
Myth #3: It's my spouse's responsibility to keep me happy.
Unfortunately, this is the kind of thinking that results in extremely difficult marriage problems. Because unless you recognize and face this dangerous myth, your husband will always fall short of your expectations of him. This will make him feel like a failure and result in him pulling away from you.
Truth is: You are the only person in your life who can give you happiness. The sooner you take back responsibility for the way you feel, the sooner your marriage will soar to new heights. I guarantee you that.
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